Interview with Frances, Aged 12 years, 5 months

Current job?
~Student. I’m 12
Dream job?
~Anything that makes me enough money to run a Friesian and Lippizaner care centre attached to a vet’s office where my friends can come and ride my horses for free. Not Mummy
Favorite food?
Favorite type of cat?
Favorite candy?
~Anything sour
Favourite ice cream?
~Mint chocolate chip
Your favourite colour(s)?
~Black, lime green, white, and gold
Favourite holiday?
~My birthday, duh
Night owl or Early Bird?
~Night owl
Favourite day?
~Holidays! Sunday
~I’m 12
Like to cook?
~Yes, whatever doesn’t burn the house down
Can you drive a stick shift?
~I’ve been shown how to drive a tractor
Your vehicle colour?
Do you like vegetables?
~Yes, of course!
Do you wear glasses?
~Yes, I think that’s kind of obvious
Glasses you wear?
~Black Raybans. (Can I wear Gucci?)
Favourite Perfume?
~Chanel No. 5
Favorite season?
Favourite music?
~Billie Eilish
Favourite kind of movie?
Favourite show?
~Stranger Things
Favourite author?
~Stephen King
Favourite graphic novel?
~Smile by R. Telgemeier
Favourite activity?
~English and Western horseback riding
Pink Cup Cat, Pink Cup Dog, Pink Cup Pony
Where do you want to live when you grow up?
Favourite restaurant?
~East Side Mario’s

#asd #aspergers #autism


Frances drew this picture yesterday for a friend’s dog — I think it’s really cute. She actually drew pictures for all of the dogs in that family, and this is my favourite.

Unexpected encounter 

Yesterday, I had to stop off at a horse sanctuary because our family had won a raffle item that I needed to pick up.

I called ahead to make sure that it was a good time to stop by.

I approached the front door of the house and heard several dogs barking. I rang the doorbell.

Nobody answered, so I stood and waited.

The sound of the barking dogs got louder, and that’s when I turned and realized that dogs were running toward me: two had escaped through a side door in the house.

I was terrified. The dogs didn’t break their stride. All I could think of was the fact that I was considered a threat, and they were running towards me and barking ferociously.

These dogs were not going to be interested in sniffing my hand (I knew this much); I was in their territory and I knew that barking and bared teeth were bad signs for me.

Every instinct that I had was to communicate that I was not a threat, but getting away was not possible. 

(It is very difficult to think calmly and rationally when two dogs might bite you at any second, I’ve learned. While your brain screams, “Escape!”, your general impression is that you cannot, in fact, escape and that trying to do so would be very painful.)

Instead, I tried to appear to be as calm as possible and kept my arms at my sides. I slowly turned my body very slightly away from the dogs in front of me and from their house behind me, angled my head down and to the side while I cast my gaze well away. I stayed that way for a LONG time.

Somehow, what I did worked: they backed down. They threw a few warning growls and barks at me as they walked away, but I seemed to have disarmed them — which is really bad news if the owners were keeping them as guard dogs, but good news for us — and maybe even taught Frances what to do should she find herself in the same situation.

It all happened very swiftly, and it seemed an awfully long time before the owner eventually appeared. Only then did I move! She apologized nervously, and I tried to get to my SUV as graciously as possible.

I didn’t talk about the incident as we drove off; if Frances had wanted to discuss it, she definitely would have. This way, I didn’t cause her more worries about “what ifs” and such.

I don’t know if my approach would work for someone else or if it would even work a second time for me. I just don’t want to have to do that again!

Dogs on display 

Frances lines up her many dogs…

We went to her favourite toy store after school yesterday so that she could spend her allowance. She ended up buying — you guessed it — dolls. (Dog figurines from Melissa & Doug.)

From very young toddlerhood to now, she has always lined up her toys.

The docs

Frances’s preferred documentary topics are diverse. Each topic’s phase is quite intense, lasting anywhere from weeks to months, during which period she learns a great deal.

It also means that I learn a great deal, too, because, after all, I am with her as she watches her docs.

Before Frances had come along, I couldn’t have told you what a terrapin is, how cute meerkats are, or what are the specific fertility issues afflicting the giant panda. I had no idea how wonderfully diverse architecture in the US and Canada can be, from where the Crown Jewels originate, or how many people on the planet have primordial dwarfism type II. 

Of course, having children in and of itself is a learning process, but there’s just so much more to learn when Frances is nearby.